It hurts when you miss someone that doesn’t miss you.
Allthatisthecase: When non-autistic parents of autistic kids find out that I’m autistic they generally have some combination of a few predictable reactions
When non-autistic parents of autistic kids find out that I’m autistic they generally have some combination of a few predictable reactions.That I must be sooooo high functioning and diagnosed with Asperger’s and probably pretty recently too. That even if I did previously have the full blown autism like their kid that any ability I have now must be the result of intensive therapy/ABA/whatever they consider the closest thing to a cure or else some sort of non-duplicatable miracle that could never penetrate their child’s autism.
I am definitely not any sort of life expert. I struggle to do virtually everything I do, and what I do manage to get done is generally still far below what most people consider “the bare minimum.” But I can at least say that whatever “functionality” I do have has only ever been non-traumatically and sustainably improved by accepting what my limits are and not excessively rushing or forcing things, even if they seem absolutely essential to survival.
I’ve learned to conserve my speech and budget my thoughts and energy. I’ve learned a bit about how overextending myself is a strategy that I have to consciously and deliberately employ in order to use it safely. I have a lot more to learn of course. But if I didn’t spend so many hours doing things like laying on the floor staring at “nothing” then I wouldn’t be able to do the things that people consider my achievements either.
They seem to really hate the idea that I was an autistic kid who grew into an autistic adult and who still has to do everything autistically.
천 달러 미만을 아동 친 가족에게 제공해 주면 아동이 친가족과 함께 살 수 있는 상황에서 아동을 해외입양하기 위해 수천이나 수만 달러를 소비하는 것은 윤리적으로 맞는지 우리는 질문해 봐야 한다. We must ask ourselves if it is ethical to spend thousands of dollars (or tens of thousands of dollars) to arrange an intercountry adoption, when aid of less than a thousand dollars would have kept the child with their birth family.
eminem has 2 different songs that he rehashes over and over. one song is supposed to be funny and he uses an annoying nasal voice and talks about “topical” issues like which currently famous female he hates and then his other song which is supposed to be serious and he uses an annoying overly aggressive tone and talks about “personal” issues like which female in his life he currently hates. both songs suck.
Q:Why shouldn't a trait, heterosexuality, possessed by 90-92% of the population be considered default?
why shouldn’t being asian, a trait that 60% of the world’s population possess, be considered the default for humanity?
because human beings are diverse and there are a million ways to be normal and non-heterosexuals have been oppressed for centuries by the idea of heterosexuality as the default you little shit
Anyone who thinks that a group being the “default” is based solely on that group being a majority is lying to themselves. Intersex people and red-haired people exist in about the same proportions in the US (and consequently, gay, bi and ace people outnumber red-haired people by quite a bit), yet being intersex is seen as a deviation from the default whereas red hair is seen as a natural, albeit rare, variation in human hair colors. The idea of a “default” race, sexuality, gender identity, etc. is 100% socially constructed.
for that matter, women slightly outnumber men, but maleness is still considered default. think of the language we use for mixed groups: “dudes”, “guys”, “fellas”. there are more women on earth than there are men, but how do you think folks would react if I walked into a mixed gender party and hollered, “hey, ladies, how are y’all doing tonight?”
yeah. “normal” is bullshit. “default” is bullshit. the word you want is “common”, and something being common doesn’t automatically make it special than something being rare.
If we’re gonna go by numbers, insects are the default. Sorry straight people.
If you’re poor why not ask your parents for more money?